Just following on from a discussion point in the Evil Angel thread, what are your thoughts on this fairly recent trend? It seems to me that you can't buy a porn DVD these days (from whichever stable/director) that doesn't feature at least a small amount of male>female throat grabbing. Unfortunately for me it's a massive turn-off and pretty much the main reason why I only buy a very small number of DVDs these days compared to a few years ago. Even an otherwise red hot scene is ruined for me if a guy goes for a girl's throat. It just kills the fantasy of a guy really enjoying a woman's body in my eyes. It demeans the woman, suppresses her personality, makes her no more than what I would call a "fuck doll" and just has really horrible, insidious rape overtones. More than anything, I suppose it reminds me I'm watching porn, which is exactly what porn shouldn't do. And I just cannot for the life of me fathom why a guy who has the pleasure of fucking a beautiful woman would want to grab her throat.
I think we can essentially blame Rocco Siffredi for this - he seemed to pioneer it back in around 2000 or so as I see it - but other directors are hardly blameless for just copying it. I know people will say that some women enjoy it. I don't doubt that, but I reckon that for every one that does there'll be about 10 that hate it but feel they have to go along with it - an occupational hazard. I would think it's hard for porn starlets to speak out about this kind of thing without sounding "tame" or fussy and maybe giving themselves a "high maintenance" tag within the industry. The men rule the roost in porn at least as far as production and direction goes, I guess.
Also, I see this as fairly specialist. I can easily avoid fetish or incest (ugh) porn, for example, as they are clearly labelled as such, whereas throat grabbing porn isn't, it's just part and parcel of "normal" porn. This is the real problem I have - not that it exists, but that it is everywhere. I'm fed up with people always saying "Oh well there's so much porn these days that it caters to everyone's tastes". I'd love someone here to show me some current porn where there isn't any of this. I can show you my entire collection up to about 2005 if you like, after that I'm struggling. But currently I think you have to rule out pretty much anything American and anything with Rocco, Omar Galanti, Manuel Ferrara and Steve Holmes in it. That's maybe 95% of current porn! Even David Perry - previously one of the more mild-mannered male porn actors who always (commendably) let his dick do the talking has started to do it a bit (and fairly unconvincingly, it must be said). Why is he doing it? Does he feel he needs to follow the pack? Is it under instruction from certain directors?
I'd love to hear from any porn directors or actors/actresses as to their thoughts but just viewers also, genuinely what do you think about throat grabbing in porn? If it turns you on, I'm genuinely interested as to why. I'm not being judgemental here I hope (there's loads of stuff in porn I like and don't like that would differ from others and vice versa I'm sure), just voicing my frustration that as someone who doesn't like it I don't seem able to escape it.